October 2011

All Girls Welcome in Girl Scouts

"The Girl Scouts not only welcomes lesbians; they also welcome transgender girls who identify as girls"

Part of me doesn’t want my daughter in Girl Scouts. I’ve always thought that they don’t do as many cool things as the Boy Scouts do—like making macaroni necklaces, for example, while the boys build fires. Plus, she’s in so many activities already—4-H, taekwondo, music, piano, and a reader’s club all on top of our several homeschool groups—that I don’t want to overwhelm her!

But when I discovered that, unlike Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts accepts gays, and that Girl Scouts will let you change their pledge to honor whichever deity you like rather than the generic “god,” I was pretty impressed. “Maybe this is worth checking out,” I remember telling my husband—who could only groan at the thought of another activity in our lives.

Monogamy and Bisexuality

What's with the long standing myth that bisexuals aren’t capable of monogamy?

I was having a conversation with a friend a few weeks ago and the topic of monogamy came up. She identifies as bisexual, and she made the comment that monogamy would be terribly difficult for her as a bisexual. Now, I don’t identify as bisexual. I’m lesbian. However, I do understand the bisexual lifestyle and I am very open to the difficulties they face. Her statement made me angry. I told her if that was her personality, then fine. But she needed to remove the ‘as a bisexual’ part of that statement because her sexuality had nothing to do with her feelings on monogamy.

There’s been a long standing myth that bisexuals aren’t capable of monogamy.  I don’t believe this at all, and most bisexuals will stand with me.  Statements like the one my friend made just continue to perpetuate this bad stereotype.

As a general rule bisexuals are no more likely to cheat in a monogamous relationship. Unfortunately, since so many people don’t understand the concept of bisexuality they typically assume that it isn’t in a bisexual’s nature to stay with one person.  The truth is bisexuals just don’t see gender as a deciding factor when getting involved in a relationship. If you make a list of the 10 most important things for you in a partner, whether or not you consciously do it, gender is almost always on that list. For bisexuals it isn’t.  This doesn’t mean they will wander or stray once in a committed relationship, and that’s where a lot of the confusion comes in.

Not Just a Phase

 

For years those in the bisexual community have heard that it’s just a phase. This can come from family, friends and even others in the LGBT community. While those that are bisexual realize it’s not just a phase many others just couldn’t wrap their minds around the idea that this is a real and legitimate sexual orientation.

Now there’s proof. Earlier in the year the “Bisexual Invisibility” report compiled data collected through various studies and research to investigate the legitimacy of bisexuality in the gay community. The project was started in 2007 and the report was released in January 2011.