I have a best friend of ten years, this month we have had sex for the first time. He has this new girlfriend. We got in a little arguement and in so many words he said he wanted to give her a chance before we got any tighter. Now our friendship is ruined, I have told him how I felt and offered to be in an open relationship. Now what?
Dude, seriously, wtf are you thinking?
I'm assuming you're a queer male, either bi or gay, though you don't specify. Either way, asking advice on the Internet when you have no clue about who you're getting advice from is umm . . . less than ingenious.
It's not the 'net you need to talk to, it's your would-be-sex partners, BOTH of them. Yeah, that's right, her too. You can't have an "open relationship" with a silent partner. And if you two guys are boinking away, even if you're using condoms, she's effectively boinking with both of you since she's presumably having sex with your sex partner.
We call that sleeping with a vector, and it's one of the most un-safe sex things a woman can do.
Yes, open relationships work, and are possible, but it requires committed grown-ups who are adult enough to deal with each other honestly.
Also? If you two continue having a sexual relationship, and you don't tell the girlfriend, you're both irresponsible immature weasels who don't deserve sex ever with anyone.
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